Day 10 - Change the narrative
Singleness is not something to fear or to hate. What makes singleness tough is the constant bombarding of overt and subliminal messages that we MUST be in a relationship to thrive, which simply isn’t true. When you were born, you were born with everything you needed inside of you. You are not less for not having a partner, even if your culture or society tells you otherwise. There are many people who love solitude, who enjoy non-romantic relationships, who have dedicated their lives to a cause. None of these people are lacking, it’s our understanding that is. It’s ok to desire relationships but not for it to be all-consuming to the point where we settle for relationships that are harmful or way below our standards. We should never be driven to lock ourselves into life-long contracts of misery to placate people’s opinions.
Recognise that singleness is just as great as a relationship
Understand the benefits of singleness, which is ‘you time’.
See some of the benefits below:
Singleness determines the quality of all your relationships
You have time to understand and explore who you are
You grow in self-love which is key to flourishing relationships
You learn that you are in control of your own happiness and are not looking for a person to be the source
You learn how to take care of yourself holistically so you can do that for future generations
You discover purpose and your life vision which determines your future
You grow in self-esteem, self-acceptance, and self-respect
You are less likely to tolerate unhealthy relationships
You attract healthy people on your wavelength
You become emotionally mature
You increase in personal value
You learn to set boundaries
This list is not even the tip of all that you can experience during singleness. As you begin to appreciate and flourish in it, you’ll begin to discover more of its amazing benefits and you'll even add your own!
Written by Jennifer Enti - Assistant Content Creator for Dear Girls.
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